Spring is here! Time for cleaning out the old, bringing in the new, and getting clear about what we really want that ‘new’ to be. Even in Topanga, with our quasi-seasons, you can feel the freshness and fragrance of new growth. The question to ask is’ ‘What do you desire…?’

Desire. I’ve mentioned it in passing in previous articles, but it deserves its own. Literally translated, the word means “of the Father”, most likely referencing a divine paternal figure, not the man you grew up with. (In a matriarchal culture, would the word be “demare”…?)

Recently, I had the honor of being a beta client for a friend on her way to licensure as a prosperity coach. In the first few minutes of our session, she pointed out how content I sounded. “Isn’t there anything you want? Your desire fuels the process. Without it, I cannot help you.”

Quick as a coyote, I gave her a list including but not limited to my ideal income and a MacBook Pro laptop computer. I’d been so focused on acceptance and gratitude for what I do have, I’d made no room for desire! Silly me!

Desire is the fuel for expansion. No wonder it is of the divine; desire is what motivates you to be more of who you are. You were conceived in desire, and you were born with your own desires and preferences. When your desire stems from the magical mixture of gratitude for what already is, and a sincere yearning to fully realize yourself and all you can give and receive in this world, it is nothing short of miraculous! And dare I say sacred? Knowing this, why would anyone give up the fuel to reach their personal potential or the fulfillment of their dreams?

I asked myself this question and dug up two unintentional but very limiting thoughts: “I can’t” and “I shouldn’t”. In other words, lack and guilt. These thoughts are not your friends. If they should try to crash your party, I highly recommend that you change the username on your brain and not give them the password. I am sure these thoughts are the root of all evil in my life! No wonder I’ve put so much time and energy into encouraging my children to drop them.

As a kid, I got fed a basic home cooked diet of three meals a day, including food from the four food groups and a healthy dose of lack mentality. Were you also raised on a diet rich with limiting beliefs? This is not an invitation to complain, just a jumping off point, and possibly a point of connection.

I believe all parents do the best they can. (As a parent, this particular belief helps me sleep at night.) It’s only natural that any limiting beliefs parents hold get fed to our kids. Such is life. My folks became parents as teens and had very little money. Then I spent thirteen years in school with a one adult to twenty kid ratio. I wonder if it’s even possible for any one adult to meet the strong emotional needs of twenty growing children…? It’s hard enough for two parents to meet the needs of one child!

So, as I assess the facts, I have compassion for both myself and the beautifully imperfect team of adults who raised me. However I got here, today is a great day to begin living my dreams. And I have all the time in the world; twenty-four hours a day, just like everyone else. Again, the questions is: what do I want to do with it?

I’m being told I can have, do and be anything I desire, limited only by my own level of willingness and belief. While I do not have the capacity or need to substantiate this absolutely, I can say from personal experience that even a little more attention to this philosophy is rejuvenating and joyous. Possibility is positively exhilarating.

I have a friend and mentor who often asks me, “Is that what you want?” This simple question counteracts any residual subconscious beliefs from my past that somehow what I want is “wrong” or “too much”. It’s a little embarrassing, but I tell you, the idea that what I want matters and is (holy cow!) possible (!) lights me up like a shooting star! To be perfectly honest, there is a part of me as old as I am that has always known this and has been waiting for the world to catch on. I think all kids are born with this knowing.

Now when I hear ‘I shouldn’t’, I respond with, “Says who?” When I hear, ‘I can’t’, I ask, “What can you do?” or “What do you need?” Another tool is to simply create reverse affirmations: “I can’t” becomes, “I can!” or “It’s okay, you can do it.” This last statement conveys so much: permission, reassurance and the idea that someone else is on the team.
 
What do you want to do with your life? With your day? With the next hour? As you are clear on the ‘what’, the ‘how’ shows up on its own. It just needs your ‘what’ to have a direction, a desire to fill.

I really want that Mac. I’m a professional writer, and I want the best. So, I’ve opened a savings account and labeled it ‘My Macintosh’. I have a desire to not incur any unsecured debt, so I’ve chosen to take on more work with the paper, with a magazine, and with personal organizing and coaching. I have a very visual mind, so I picture myself with that laptop. I visit the Apple store, each time learning more about exactly what I want. I tried out the keyboards, and found that the Pro felt good to the touch. I’m creating space for it. I cleaned out my car, because quite frankly, I do not want to imagine taking my brand new computer home in a dusty car filled with my kids’ crap. I’ve also let people know what I’m up to.

Last week, a friend called. She was very excited, and told me to wait, that she may be able to get me a substantial discount as a UC alumnus, and she wants to help me. I could not have strategized that. Especially her excitement as the prospect of helping me realize my dream. Point is, I do all I can and then trust everything else to fall together in divine time. How could it not? My desire is divinely inspired. It will bring me great joy and help my family and others in the world. It’s quite possible that I really am a child of a friendly universe. And so are you.

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Simple Desire Tools

Post It (for your fridge): “Ask and it is Given” ~ Abraham

• Ask yourself often, What do I want?

• Write down all of your desires on lovely paper and tuck them away somewhere safe, trusting that you’ve given a message to the Universe.

• Choose one special desire and imagine it being fulfilled. How will you feel, what will it do for you? Use all of your senses, embody it!

• Take an action, a simple one, toward your desire. This can be as easy as stating out loud on a hike, “I am willing to do what it takes to make myself happy today.” This is a bigger action than you may think.

• Pray, meditate, be still with the possibility that it’s okay for you to have all that you desire, that indeed, it may actually help serve others.

• Allow your face to reflect the joy of this truth.

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Sage Knight, ALSP, is a licensed spiritual coach with twenty years training and experience in health and wellbeing fields. She has walked on fire and birthed in water and is available to assist you in attaining ‘the impossible’. For more info on private sessions and women’s events, call 818.264.6163.