By understanding what a difference sex makes in providing peace, intimacy and unity in a relationship, many of our graduates have developed a new willingness to provide sex for their partners on an “as needed” basis. They are not worrying about whether or not they want to; they’re expecting they will “get into it” soon enough. For the most part, this will work great. It will reduce tension while increasing fun, communication and partnership.

To prevent resentment from developing, it’s important for every person to determine their “Pumpkin Hour.” This is the time after which providing sex will result in loss of sufficient sleep. Given how much men need sleep, and women benefit from plenty of sleep, giving up sleep for sex will eventually create some animosity and decrease the willingness to play.

What’s your “Pumpkin Hour?” You may have one on both ends – a too late and a too early time for sex. Make sure your partner knows what it is, so no one’s feelings have to be hurt, and no one has to be the bad guy.

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Alison Armstrong is founder of Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women®.

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