Fundamental to being a man is being a provider. Not because society expects men to provide (although it does) and not because women want men to provide (although they do). Being a Provider comes with the package. You can’t separate man/provider. It’s part of his identity and part of his definition of a successful man. When asked what men fear, it’s never some physical danger. It’s almost always “failing to provide what my loved ones need.”

Every man is also particular about what he is willing to and wants to provide. For some it’s homes and cars, babies and bicycles. For others it may be support and encouragement, a backrub and a backstop.

The easiest relationships – whether they be romantic, family, friendship or work related – are those in which what a man wants to provide, in fact, is compelled to provide, is highly valued by the receiver.


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Alison Armstrong is founder of Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women®.

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